How To I Define My Sexuality And Stick To It?
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I am 26. I have had many heterosexual encounters which I enjoyed (did not make me guilty), I have had several homosexual encounters (whcih makes me sick and guilty as hell even to think about suicide).
At this point of my life, I don’t know what to do. I am still atracted to both girls and guys. But I hate it so much to be atracted to guys… I just want to be like them, act like them in a way that women admire me.. but when I try to do that I fail and feel bad and thats why I run into masturbation and fantasies with guys.
I am the unhapiest person in the world, I hate life and myself. If I had to choose, I rather deal being a macho man and having children everywhere and pay child support… but I hate when I think that my issue is about sex with men.
Please help.
PS. I am a Christian and now I am more confused than ever…
and its been a year without any sex incounter with either sex.
5 Comments
October 14th, 2009 at 8:20 pm
“I am the unhapiest person in the world”
Unhappier than the people who are starving to death in Africa and Asia? I doubt it.
There’s nothing wrong with being homosexual/bisexual, and the thoughts aren’t something you can control. Since you’re bi, you could always just not act on the homosexual impulses, but don’t expect that to make the thoughts go away. Just accept that they’re part of who you are.
October 14th, 2009 at 8:36 pm
jaja hacedor de suenos?? es verdad esto?? bueno.. yo quiero un millon de dolares!
lmao.. no but honestly i believed u for about 3 seconds.. but c’mon either you’re a troll or u need to do some serious self-seeking. (the christian part seriously, dude, it through me off) Find out who YOU are and what YOU want.. i mean Yahoo’s pretty cool but we can’t make you straight!! If you think u need help.. seek real help, man. It sounds like u have like an immaturity problem, and u give up easily on things. So find something constructive to do in your life that doesn’t involve sexing ppl.. lmao and focus on something that will actuallly bring out the best in you .. and you’ll find confidence in yourself. Then you’ll know yourself better and you’ll know what you want.. (be it males or females.. atleast you’ll be happy i guess) That’s all i can really tell you.
October 14th, 2009 at 9:06 pm
Look. If you’re attracted to guys because you have no success with girls then you’re not a true homosexual either.
If you want to be successful with girls, address that problem. Figure out what you’re doing wrong, polish your social skills, and work for it.
And if you’re attracted to guys because you truly like guys (not because women are rejecting you), then why aren’t you happy with that? If that’s who you are, that’s who you are, isn’t it?
But if it isn’t who you are, just an excuse for not getting the girls, well, then, that’s lame, isn’t it?
October 14th, 2009 at 9:30 pm
There’s nothing wrong with liking both genders. Seriously, God wouldn’t put homosexuals on this planet and then state in the bible we’re sinners. But guess what? We’re all sinners, no matter how big of a deal you make it. Love is love brother. Love doesn’t know no bounds, it’s blind and a fool.
I’ve been put on this earth as a genderqueer, but my intentions in love are purely good hearted . I’ve fought so many different types of hatred. Being deaf, gay, and among other things. People no longer look in the soul or heart of someone, but merely the image we project of who we are inside.
If there was something wrong with same sex love, then we will be back to Babylonian times, where women were slaves, and men were kings. Take a look at history young man, even in Babylonian times, men slept with men and only slept with women to procreate . Homosexuality has been a fact of life since BEFORE christ… BEFORE the bible.
You’re not doing anything wrong, as long as you’re safe with how you go about it. Protection, safe sex, and always.. always .. follow your heart.
The heart will want what it wants. Let it be your guide.
Trust it.
Don’t let religion be your guide. It’s a false prophecy for life.
October 14th, 2009 at 10:05 pm
I was all set and ready to offer some help until I got to the Christian part.
I believe all attraction and love, no matter what gender is beautiful and natural, unfortunately their are some who do not agree with me and they are often of your faith.
I assume it is your religion that is causing you to feel sick and guilty and I really can’t help you there. I don’t know how to make you stop feeling it’s wrong and I really can’t help you to change (not that I think its possible)
I sincerely hope you learn to accept yourself and find happiness.